In a few months, September 18th to be exact, I will be turning 27! When I finally learned that the fashion I always admired and enjoyed looking at was called Lolita, I was almost past my 1/4 century mark. For the next year or so; I read up on the fashion that had stolen my heart and anytime the urge to actually try to wear the fashion arose I always came back to the conclusion that I was too old for it.
I bought my first Lolita dress almost 2 years ago from an Etsy shop of a girl who said she just wanted to spread the love for the Japanese fashions that she found so inspirational. I got a really great deal on it, and even though it's not perfectly made I still adored it and wore it a couple of times but not as Lolita.
During the time that I spent learning about Lolita and reading all the thoughts of people from all over the world. One of the topics that always caught my attention was the topic of age in Lolita. Everyone seemed to have a different opinion on the matter. "Lolita should only be for younger girls", "anyone can wear Lolita no matter their age" or the "you can wear Lolita but if you're old then you should be wearing Classic or Gothic styles". There were so many other opinions as well, these were just a few of the ones that were echoed time and time again.
But what if you're older and the styles you love the most are ones that "older people shouldn't be wearing"? And that's where I faced my dilemma. Was I going to let the opinions of others on a fashion that is meant to make you feel special and beautiful deter me from wearing it; or was I going to make my leap of faith and finally wear something that I loved so much that when I saw it it made my heart race? It was already influencing my fashion in my everyday life and giving me a new prospective on how I saw things; so why shouldn't I give it a try before I lost more time that could be spent enjoying it?
Well, if you're reading this then I'm sure you know what decision I made ^^ And now it's been around 4 months since I wore Lolita for the first time, and I don't regret a thing. Since then so much has happened to me and when I really think about it all; I think fashion and Lolita are the driving force behind it. I'm finally starting to feel like myself and finding joy in the clothes I wear, instead of just wearing clothes because clothes are necessary to cover your naked body. lol
Not only that but Lolita has lead me to meet so many new and very special people. And the awesome thing about that is they're not all only on the Internet. I have a community full of wonderful people and it continues to grow and add more great people to meet and hopefully become friends with. While I know there will always be negatives in the world, even within Lolita, it's done so much more good that it's almost diminished the negative. I am finally starting to feel that I'm finding my place in this world when I thought there never was one for me. Now I'm able to finally find my own joy and don't plan on stopping anytime soon. I don't know if I will wear Lolita forever, though I hope I do, but that's ok because I'm living in the now.
So if you, like me are older or really any age, sex, race, or even an alien and love Lolita but are too unsure whether you should finally try it. Wearing Lolita in-itself is such an experience. For that time you're wearing it you can be a pastel princess, a sailor, pirate, Victorian queen, or anything your imagination can dream. In my opinion if it's something that you really feel love for and you have that drive to do it then don't wait any longer and take the leap into all the fluffy goodness that is Lolita. I don't think you will regret it, but if you do and find out it's not for you; then you can always sell the things you bought to someone who will treasure them and find joy in them. There are lots of us out there.
Hope maybe my experience and thoughts on this issue might help someone. If you have any questions, while I'm not an expert I don't mind trying to help out or even asking my fellow Lolis if I'm unable to answer, feel free to send me a message <3 Angel Brite
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